The Best Book On Singles Over 40

1. Preparation is everything.  When putting on your make-up or buttoning your shirt – tell yourself what a good time you’re going to have. Affirmations can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
2. Asking a girl out is just as important as the date itself; it sets the mood. Once a guy asked me out by having 12 people I didn’t know show up at my workplace each with a red rose asking the question: “Will you accept this rose?.” They each had clue to who my suitor was and where we’d spend the evening.  It was pretty wild;  I’d come close to guessing who it was by rose 6, but I still had no idea that he was taking me to the Monterey Acquarium for our first date by the time I received rose 12 –  a wet ‘n wild evening!
3. Believe it or not, the old standard of going out to dinner – appetizer and main course at one restaurant, then a little stroll to an intimate little chocolate bar for dessert – takes some planning but is well worth it. You get a chance to talk, hold hands, and take your time getting to know someone.
4. Firing range or roller coaster. The element of danger brings you closer as you compete for the best scores or hang on for dear life. Scientific studies show that nothing gets the love juices flowing like fear or high anxiety situations.
5. Cooking class – I love a guy who heats things up in a kitchen. I had a date once who showed up at my place with grocery bags filled with all the fixin’s for dinner and a movie. He grilled great steaks, put together a so-so salad, forgot to turn the oven on for the baked potatoes, and then we cuddled while watching one of my favorite movies “The Thomas Crown Affair” – just perfect.
6. Tantric Sex class – I’d been dating a guy for a while and thought it would be interesting. The class involved a lot of heaving breathing. You need to be open-minded to try an exercise like this with strangers outside of the bedroom.
7. Playing tourist – city bus tour – this is so much fun to do with a new date or someone you’ve known for a while. It’s one of those ordinary outings where you can learn some extraordinary things about the opposite sex, like how they treat others, their politeness index, and how they deal with not being in control. After all, some other guy is doing the driving. You can also tell how spontaneous they are – let’s jump off the bus now and grab a bite at that corner pub.
8. Window shopping right before Christmas – You can get ideas for what to get each other and help select presents for each other’s gift lists. It’s  much more fun than shopping alone.
9. Picnic dinner at home – my guy did all the cooking, spread a blanket on the floor, lit candles, and set the table–very romantic.
10. When I first moved to Phoenix, AZ I met a cutie at the clubhouse gym.  Our first date was a bicycle ride through the neighborhood at dusk and a stop at the local ice cream parlor for cones – something that was a lot of fun to do when I was a kid proved to be just as much fun as a grownup.

I’m an old-fashioned kind of girl. All in all, my fantasy dates are the ones where the guys took charge and I didn’t have to plan a thing.

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